We all have come across people with negative energy. People who make you feel bad for no reason, and blame you for all their problems. No matter how hard you try, the person is always unhappy with you, and your actions. We might call them our close friends and still allow them in our lives but we need to protect ourselves so that our own life and health is not affected, by their negativity. The ways listed below might help –
Don’t take it personally
Many times when people are dealing with difficulties in their lives, those around them become the targets of their unhealthy coping strategies. Their behaviors manifest out of insecurities, fears, and anger. The most important thing you can remember is that this is about them, not you, and therefore don’t take it personally.
Remain grateful for what is going well
Make a list of things you are grateful for. Let people know how thankful you are for their presence, and count your blessings for the small things. Put good energy out into the world in return for all you have been given.
Remind yourself that everyone has their own journeys
Maybe the person has come in your life as a lesson for you. We all have to learn different lessons in life. At the same time, this person has to come to their own realizations on their own time. Some call this karma.
View this as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery
Slightly altering your perception can also help you imagine what the other person might be experiencing. Considering it’s difficult to stay positive right after a disappointment or a crisis, we can take this opportunity to reflect on how we would be affected if we found ourselves in similar circumstances as theirs.
Spend time alone
Giving ourselves time to think, to meditate or trying a hobby can create wonders on our psyches and overall attitudes. Do not underestimate the time spent alone. Even if you spend the beginning of that time being angry toward this person, it is a necessary step towards shifting your thinking, so that you can return to positive state. Focus on the positive things the person has contributed in your life. When you allow time to process, you give yourself the opportunity to come up with insights and solutions.